The Relationship Artist: Staying An Individual

As children, were are all taught that one of the most important things in life is to be an individual. To think, dream, and plan our life around our goals. After all, who knows us better than ourselves? Every thought we have is our own......no one elses. We create a reality all our own for us to exercise all the freedoms that we have to enjoy. Being an individual means that we take responsibility for every decision we make, whether good or bad. Deep inside, we all know this to be true. The greatest gift your life can give you is self realization and self worth. No one can ever take that from you.

individual - to be whole and undivided. to be a complete and perfect piece of a greater entity.

As I mentioned earlier, being a whole individual is what makes our dreams come true. It's when we feel complete within ourselves that it is easier to share our lives with others. It's OK to think about you, you, you. Be selfish for a change! The stronger an individual you are, the greater the impact on your relationships......and not just the romantic ones. In every relationship you have, people are counting on you to be whole, capable, happy, and dependable. Your friends and your lovers, your children, your neighbors...... your parents, your boss and even your employees......and most of all yourself, want and need you to be all that you can be. When we concern ourselves with our well being, everyone wins. We want to be happy. We need to be able to take care of ourselves. We should realize when we are in need of repair.

Think back to when we were children. Remember all the care free times? We played.....we dreamed.....the future was wide open. Often, we would envision what we would be like as adults. We saw ourselves as firemen and doctors, inventors and discoverers, space travelers and the President. We saw ourselves as superheroes. Being the best we could be. Happy, with the man or woman of our dreams.......having babies and living in cozy little houses. I know you remember. Why are children able to see the potential of everything they can be? Why as adults, do we have such a hard time realizing the exact same potential? How much of your childhood visions of yourself have held true? Are you who you thought you would be?

Each one of us is truly a superhero.

We can be the very best we can be. We have the ability to reach the stars. The key is being a whole individual. Physically, mentally, and spiritualy. You have to know that you are the most special person on Earth. Your self worth has to be in the forefront of your mind. There is a light that shines from the inside of your soul that is brighter than one million suns. It is a powerful force that nothing can extinguish. All of life's problems and stresses, unpaid bills and childhood traumas, may damage the ego but cannot touch the essence of who you are!

The superhero always wins.

Until you truly feel you are the superhero, entering into a love relationship will have it's issues. Is it clear to you what two whole, complete and perfect individuals in love can be like? That love can move mountains. You have to fill whatever void you may have in your soul before you can love another. Love yourself first. Make it a number one priority to find closure with your issues. Make it a priority to concern yourself with yourself first. We all have the responsibility to visualize ourselves being anything we want to be. Create for yourself a world of your dreams.....where anything is possible. Allow someone else in your world only when they deserve it and have earned it.

You are special. They have to earn it.

Make sure your potential mate is not half a person. You are not a hospital. The Love Boat was not a rescue ship. Love will have a hard time flourishing when you are pulling bucket loads of your life's essence to mend the holes in the soul of another. I may not know what love really is, but dependancy is what love is not.

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